Why you should stop undervaluing your ‘negative’ emotions
Do you know the feeling when you have so much to do and there is little time left to do it. Your shoulders and neck start feeling tense, your thoughts are racing, your focus is all over the place and the stress starts kicking in. Now you are also stressing about the stress and that…
What to do when a task seems overwhelming?
How many of you procrastinate? Or maybe you don’t relate to procrastinating, but you do feel overwhelmed whenever you get appointed a big task that seems too much too handle. Yet when you are done with the tasks it doesn’t seem so ‘big’ anymore. As if it magically changes into something you can cope with.…
How to deal with uncertainty and gain the most out of the situation
A phenomenon we all experience is called ‘change’. Change allows the possibility for growth and development to enter our lives. We gain new knowledge with new experiences and we learn what we do and do not like. By placing our right foot in the comfort zone and our left in the unknown we have a…
A great exercise to clear your thoughts
We all know those periods of time when our minds are full of racing thoughts. Those moments when it is really difficult to just enjoy the thing you are doing, to enjoy the present. During those moments you might want to distract yourself because if you don’t all those thoughts come rushing through. Racing thoughts…
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Protect your mind from negativity
In times like these with the Corona Virus dominating the news, it is important not only to think of the physiological consequences, but also about the psychological ones. I have looked up some psychological studies discussing fear and how it can be contagious. In this post I will not discuss the virus as much, but…
3 lessons that help you evolve into the next version of yourself
This week I write about three golden nuggets, or insights, or wise expressions, that I believe to be related and of great importance. For me they highlight how we are always changing, how growth is something in our lives that lies deep within us, and how we should accept the fact that we will not…
You can influence the speed of time
Every now and then I catch myself wanting time to pass by faster. There is so much I want to do in life, so much to explore and learn, that I visualize what the future will look like and sometimes stay there mentally.. Whenever this happens, I notice that I start to lose focus and…
4 types of goals and how to implement them for success
Many of us like to set goals for ourselves, and in a way everyone sets goals for themselves. Goals don’t have to be big things. They can be small things as well. Think of writing a to-do list for the day and crossing of what you have finished. Those things on that list can be…
How visualization can improve your life
Visualization is a subject many talk about. It is a skill that we can all implement in our lives no matter how big or small an activity is. Visualization is a mental tool which allows us to imagine all the possible outcomes of an object or experience. It is a method that does wonders for…
THE THREE ZONES: Comfort zone, stretch zone, and stress zone
It truly is a nice thing to be able to sit down on the couch and relax after a long day. Or even to enjoy spending your time with your friends and loved ones indoors, maybe watching movies and playing boardgames. With the world occasionally being chaotic, it is also nice to know what to…
HAVING AN ‘OFF-DAY’
Occasionally we can experience having an ‘off-day’. A day that doesn’t go according to plan. A day in which it seems as if the world is against you and you keep receiving bad news. You might have a few tricks up your sleeve that can help you to reset, feel better, and enjoy your day.…
BE AUTHENTIC
Many people talk about ‘being authentic’, but what does this mean? And how must one ‘be authentic’? A quick search on the internet provides a definition for ‘authentic’ which is: the undisputed origin of something and not a copy. When something or someone is authentic, it is genuine and pure. To be authentic is a…
Perspective during difficult times
Sometimes things are just not working for us. It feels as if everything is going wrong, we cannot get anything done, and all we say and do is not received well. It is as if the world is working against us and we tend to ask ourselves ‘why is this happening to me?’. Though, on…
AAN WIE ZIJN LOOPTEMPO HEB JIJ JE AANGEPAST?
Veerkracht is een prachtig woord die staat voor het vermogen om te herstellen van een tegenslag. Zelfs het voelen en accepteren van wat je meemaakt is deel van een veerkrachtige reactie. Als we kijken naar een baby dan zien we een ongelooflijke veerkracht. Toen wij nog een baby waren, was alles nieuw voor ons en…
Durf jij de confrontatie aan met jezelf?
Durf jij de confrontatie aan met jezelf? Durf jij jezelf te analyseren en niet weg te deinzen als je iets lelijks tegenkomt? Durf jij te kijken naar wie je bent, wat je doet en wat je gedachten zijn? Durf jij een negatieve gedachte te observeren en te analyseren om erachter te komen dat er een…
Toolbox: omgaan met verandering
Verandering is iets wat we altijd meemaken. Verandering brengt de mogelijkheid voor groei en ontwikkeling. Door nieuwe ervaringen op te doen kunnen we nieuwe kennis opdoen. We leren wat wel en niet werkt. Met onze rechtervoet in de comfortzone tasten we met onze linkervoet in het onbekende. Soms is het beter om met beide voeten…
NEEM CONTROLE OVER JE GEZONDHEID
Enkele weken geleden heb ik een stuk geschreven over de definitie van gezondheid. Vandaag wil ik delen hoe je op een empowerende manier naar je gezondheid kunt kijken en hoe je je bewust kunt worden van jouw eigen recept om je gezond te voelen. Met de tijd is het concept van gezondheid veranderd. Ik…
WAT IS GEZONDHEID?
Ben jij gezond? Waarom wel/niet? Je antwoord op deze vraag kan je inzichten geven in de wijze waarop jij naar gezondheid kijkt. De afgelopen tijd wordt het woord ‘gezondheid’ wel meer genoemd, misschien wel meer dan ooit te voren. We praten er gemakkelijk over en iedereen lijkt ook een idee te hebben van wat het…
Wees de persoon waar anderen dankbaar voor zijn
Deze dagen staan voor mij in het teken van dankbaarheid, saamhorigheid en contributie. De dagen waarin de wereld samenkomt met de familie en feest viert. Een warme gloed straalt van de aarde af die we, met name dit jaar, nodig hebben. Als kind kunnen we niet wachten om de cadeaus te ontvangen en als volwassenen…
Wat beïnvloedt jouw gedachten?
Wat beïnvloedt jouw gedachten? Misschien is het iets wat je leuk vindt, iets wat een persoon zegt of een ding of dier die je aandacht trekt? Dit zijn allemaal externe factoren, maar wat nou als we kijken naar interne factoren. Ben je je bewust van hoe jij je eigen gedachten beïnvloedt? Heb je door wanneer…
WANDELEN
Ik ben meer gaan wandelen. Wandelen is iets wat ik altijd al graag gedaan heb, maar sinds het begin van de pandemie heb ik een sterke daling in mijn gemiddeld aantal dagelijkse stappen. Ik besloot om wat meer te gaan wandelen buiten. Het is bijna een routine geworden, maar ook een vorm van therapie. Of…
Stress
We kennen het allemaal, maar wat is het nou eigenlijk? Een abstract begrip, want ‘stress’ is niet iets wat je kunt vasthouden. In de snelle maatschappij van Nederland is stress iets wat we wel eens ervaren. Ik krijg ook het idee dat stress als iets negatiefs wordt gezien. Denk maar eens aan uitspraken als ‘Ik…
What is intuition?
Western culture has taught us to rationalize our decisions. But what about that instinctive feeling, that gut feeling that we can experience when something just doesn’t feel right, or it absolutely does. That sensation of knowing why, but not yet understanding it. A beautiful thing about humans being so unique, is that it provides unique…
What is coaching?
Why should you even consider having a coach? If most successful people do, there must be a good reason behind it right? If you want to improve in any area in your life, a coach might be just what you need. Coaches are trained to help you clarify what is important to you and focus…
Opportunities vs. obligations
We all to do activities that we do not like once in a while. Someone has to wake up early in the morning to go to work, while staying in bed did not sound like a bad idea. However, not going to work is not an option because then they wouldn’t even have a bed…
Breathing exercises
Why do we breathe? To stay alive. As simple as that. We need it to function and our marvellous body not only survives and thrives on it, but it is affected by it differently. Inhaling and exhaling air is something most of the time we take for granted. Something that we value very much, once…
Your thoughts influence your reality
The placebo effect is well-known in the research world, and I believe it shows how tremendously powerful our thoughts can be. A placebo is anything that looks like real medicine treatment, but is not. A placebo is used in research to test if medicine treatment has any effect at all, or if it is the…
What do you think of yourself?
This week we start with an example. Let us say you are discussing something with your friends. Everyone is giving their opinion and you want to say something as well. This way you might feel included as part of the group. However, what you say is not accepted well by the group and they ignore…
Self-discipline is freedom
Self-control is like a muscle that we can exercise throughout the day. Usually at the end of the day it gets tired and that is the moment when it gets more difficult to stop ourselves from doing the things we do not want to do. If you are on a diet and try to restrain…
Mind your surroundings
A while back I wrote about the influence of the closest people around you. People talk about how the 5 persons that are close to you, that you have a close relationship with, are the ones that influence you the most. They have gone so far to state that you become the average of those…
Blueprint for life series part III: The Blueprint
If you would describe a future scenario where you can see yourself living your most desired dream life, what would that look like? What do you need to do to be able to get to that point in your life? How much time would you need and what resources and skills do you need to…
Blueprint for life series part II: Visualization
Where do you see yourself in the next 10 years? Or the next 5 years? The next 2? What goals do you want to accomplish? Today I write about visualisation as a process continuing self-reflection. Where reflection helps you get a better understanding of yourself, visualisation helps you see how you will achieve your dreams…
Blueprint for life series part I: Reflection
This week I came back from another journey visiting the blue coast of France, or how you should pronounce it, ‘the côte d’azur’. I came back to prepare myself and get started with my studies and work. One of the things I love to do is reflect, more importantly when I get back from a…
Your personal reset button
Have you ever noticed how the way you start your day can have an impact on how you feel the rest of the day? Like sleeping poorly, waking up grumpy, and acting out to your friends or family over something small. Or you might have made a TO-DO list with all types of activities you…
SPECIAL EDITION
This week is going to be different. I have gathered a couple of insights from the interviews I have done in the couple of months and decided to make a blogpost about them. I picked out the first four persons that I had an insightful conversation with, those being Naomi Marsidi, Zain Al Rawi, Kenny…
Daan Aldus – ‘If you really want it, don’t give up’
Daan is 29 year old man who lives in the Hague in the Netherlands. He works in the video business as an editor and camera guy, he is also part of the concept theming and he has his own video production company on the side. In the past he has studied Marketing, but he didn’t…
Jia Tabinte – No matter what you choose in life, make sure it brings you happiness
Jia is a Youtuber from England who makes content about the Law of Attraction, Manifestation, self-development and raw foods. At one point in her life she got introduced to the Law of Attraction and she really got the hang of it. Once she started to understand it more, she implemented it in her life. She…
Sharissa Devis – I am always trying to improve myself and the people around me
Another interview with another entrepreneur! This week I have interviewed Sharissa Devis. She is a 26 year old entrepreneur who is a long-time friend of my girlfriend Naomi. She does multiple things and is mostly focused on what sparks her interest at the time. If you get to know her you can see how she…
Zain – Do what you love to do
This week I had the pleasure to interview Zain Al Rawi. He is a 25 year old student that lives in a Dutch city called Delft. Being as creative as he is, in the past he used to make videos and really enjoyed doing so. Now he studies Communication in the Hague, has worked as…
What are they really saying
Do you know that feeling when you want to help someone and all you accomplish with your actions is to push them away? Just as you sometimes are misunderstood, we misunderstand others as well. I believe that we can have different intentions with our expressions. So you might say something or act in a certain…
You are the average of the 5 people closests to you
I have heard many great people talk about how we tend to model the behaviour of the people that we spend most of our time with. They say that you are the average of the 5 persons closest to you. The 5 people that have the most influence on you. Just think about it. If…
Stefan Sakrama – Don’t overthink it
This week I had the pleasure to interview Stefan Sakrama, aka Stenificant. A former crew member of mine from back in the days when we were in a dance crew. He is someone that no matter what or whom he is surrounded by, he still goes for what he wants in life, for what he…
You get what you give
It is not necessary to live life constantly thinking of the future. Living in the moment, in the here and now, gives us joy. Does this mean that we should only do things that provide us happiness and make us feel well? Some might agree with this view, while others might think that in some…
Kenny Bon – From the inside out
I had the pleasure to interview Kenny Bon. A man who always seems happy and positive. If you follow him on Instagram, you would think he is always exercising. He seems to be in constant motion, always trying new things. He is someone who practices what he preaches. He tries to look at what is…
THE IMPORTANCE OF HAVING THE RIGHT HABITS
This week I’ll discuss the importance of having the right habits. If you want to read more about how to change your current habits and implement new ones, be sure to check out the article written by Naomi Marsidi. Do you know that feeling when you just fly through the week without being really conscious…
Naomi Marsidi – 10 tips on how to implement new habits into your life
NOTE: This week is a little different. My goal is to create a platform where everyone can share their stories, insights, and personal growth in order to help each other grow. Today we have a special guest who shares insights on how to implement new habits into your life. Naomi Marsidi is always looking for…
Benefits of having a morning routine
Waking up early can be easier said than done. Have you heard of people who get up at 5 am, 4 am, or even at 3 am? Some of us haven’t even gone to bed yet at that time. So when one goes to sleep, another wakes up at the same moment. Yet, if we…
Find your why series part III – My personal WHY
The last view weeks I have been doing a FIND YOUR WHY SERIES in which I help myself, and others to figure out their purpose in life and put it into words. This week I talk about my personal journey into self-discovery and formulating my own WHY. ‘Only when you take the time to plan…
Find your why series part II – How do we figure out our ‘WHY’?
Last week I discussed what our WHY means (our purpose) and why it is important to bring it to light. In the book FIND YOUR WHY Simon Sinek describes multiple steps that allow us to formulate our WHY statement. In this text I will discuss these steps and give you ways for you to formulate…
FIND YOUR WHY SERIES PART I – Now is the time to find your ‘why’
If we would have a clear purpose in life, a personal ‘why’, one that brings us fulfilment and gives us the sensation that we are living our most authentic selves, we would have direction and infinite motivation. If you say that your ‘why’ is to make money, than I would ask you what it is…
How to rewrite your personal story
Last week I discussed where our beliefs come from and how we can gain information if we look closely to our own judgements and the judgements from others. I believe that with judgement comes a certain expectation. Could it be so that the expectations we hold of ourselves, and others hold of us, are capable…
When we judge others, we judge ourselves
A great way to get a better understanding of ourselves is to ask the right questions. These can stimulate our self-awareness and are powerful enough to change our mind-sets and provide us with new insights. A subject I would like to discuss is judgement. More so, the way we judge others and how we perceive…
Positivity is a choice
Most of us are used to live a fast paced life, with innovative ideas popping up every week, start-up businesses rising up all the time, economies fluctuating and politics and wars that never seem to bore. All of that with our friend ‘social media’ that allows us to keep track of it all. Now we…
Change is inevitable
The current situation we are experiencing is demanding a drastic change in our lives. We cannot continue to live the way we are used to and are forced into changing the way we exercise, study, work, eat, and interact with each other. Change is inevitable and it is continuous. It will always happen and is…
Living mindfully during uncertain times
Last week I wrote about the difference between fear and anxiety and how they can influence your immune system in different ways. If you have not read it yet and you are curious, go to this blogpost. This week I will discuss how fear and anxiety can be contagious and what we do against it.…
From living in fear to maintaining a peaceful state of mind
In times like these with the Corona Virus dominating the news, it is important not only to think of the physiological consequences, but also about the psychological ones. I have looked up some psychological studies discussing fear and how it can be contagious. In this post I will not discuss the virus as much, but…
Dreams and To-Do Lists
Having dreams and desires is wonderful. It is truly a great thing to be capable of envisioning a future where you are living your best life, living to your full potential, and having acquired everything you wanted. If you would describe a future scenario where you can see yourself living your most desired dream life,…
The person who thinks he can and the person who thinks he cannot, are both usually right
Sometimes things are just not working for us. It feels as if everything is going wrong, we cannot get anything done, and all we say and do is not received well. It is as if the world is working against us and we tend to ask ourselves ‘why is this happening to me?’. Though, on…
The power of being grateful
One of the things I come across in almost every podcast on self-development I listen to, is the act of being grateful. People of influence in the field of personal development emphasize the act of gratitude. People such as Oprah Winfrey, Dwayne Johnson, Lewis Howes, Tony Robbins, Eric Thomas, Eckhart Tolle, and many others. How…
Choose your words wisely
Before reading this post, try this small experiment. Below you see two rows of four words and you have to fill out the last word. Try it for both rows and remember them or write them down. When you have done this, continue reading. I will get back at this later. Do you recognize the…
How do we deal with a demotivating day?
Do you recognize that feeling of waking up and not wanting to get up out of bed. That nagging feeling that pulls us down and discourages us. To make things worse it is the first thing you feel and think of that day. So we decide to stay in bed a few more minutes, maybe…
No one perceives you the same as you perceive yourself
We all perceive very differently from one and other. Two persons reading the same book might read two different stories. Better yet, you reading the same book twice at different periods in your life, might read two different stories. It is important to understand this process. Why? Because in doing so you might understand yourself…
What influences your thoughts?
What influences your thoughts? Maybe it is something you like, something a person says or is it a thing or an animal that triggers your attention? These are all external aspects, but what about your internal aspects? Are you aware of how you influence your own thoughts? Are you aware of what influences your positive…
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